there were two things i was certain of when i got engaged
the guy i was going to marry
and that there would be mason jars at my wedding
lots of them
everything else seemed to fall into place
around all the mason jars of course
...and then came baby...

Monday, August 9, 2010

friends with benefits: hiring friends to work your wedding

{via flickr}

the order isn't always as so, but for the sake of painting a picture...

you get engaged, you spread the news, and then you start the fun, and sometimes daunting, task of planning your wedding day.

once the wedding news is out, you're likely to get a few friendly offers.

turns out your fiance's cousin is a wedding photographer...and your college roommate works for a florist and would be honored to arrange your bouquet...and don't forget your neighbor's daughter that just finished pastry school & is looking to build her portfolio by baking your wedding cake.

so who do you take up on an offer and how do you kindly turn someone down?

some family and friends could be absolutely fantastic at their trait and might be willing to give their service as a wedding gift. score!

others could just be starting out & while skilled, might not have the business side of things down. or you could run into an awkward money discussion.

then there are the few that might just be darn right bad, but they're your friend, so what do you do?!

we ended up booking our wedding vendors through recommendations, but none that were solely friends or family. we did have someone offer their photography skills, but as they didn't have any wedding experience, we thought it was too risky. we simply said that we would much rather they get to enjoy the wedding as guests then to have them "work" the event.

anybody out there have any awesome or awkward experiences with having your friends work your wedding? any other tips on how to let someone down nicely?

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